Couples Therapy
There are very few people who don't dream of a partnership filled with love. We all want a partner who can see who we really are, even sometimes, see wonderful things in us that we do not yet see in ourselves. We want to let down our guard and still be found lovable. When a relationship sours the pain can be unbearable. This is a time when we really need help to see if it can be fixed, if there is still love underneath the anger and betrayal, to look gently at our own contributions to the problem.
Couple's therapy is only for the brave, but the truth of the situation can help us face what needs to be done. When both people want to figure out the next step, it is very important to find a skilled therapist because many factors come into play which can stump even the brightest and the best partners. And a skilled therapist can hold the center, be on the side of both partners and on the side of the relationship itself. And a therapist can see where each partner's own family history is brought into the situation and how this history can blind them to seeing their part in the problem and in finding a resolution.
The sessions will probably feel like hard work, partners can often feel spent at the end. It is worth the effort for each person and the relationship.
Couple's therapy is only for the brave, but the truth of the situation can help us face what needs to be done. When both people want to figure out the next step, it is very important to find a skilled therapist because many factors come into play which can stump even the brightest and the best partners. And a skilled therapist can hold the center, be on the side of both partners and on the side of the relationship itself. And a therapist can see where each partner's own family history is brought into the situation and how this history can blind them to seeing their part in the problem and in finding a resolution.
The sessions will probably feel like hard work, partners can often feel spent at the end. It is worth the effort for each person and the relationship.
Family Therapy
Why is it that we are hardest on those who are closest to us? Much of the time families just limp along never really becoming the amazing healing force that can make room for every eccentric, flawed member. One that can find the love in a painful argument, and can be the support most people only dream of having.
A family system is like any other system in that it has moving parts (like people) and tasks to do (like pay the bills and support each member). If you think about it that way you can begin to see that if two people in the system don't speak to each other (she's impossible to deal with) or someone falls apart and can't do their share then some repair is needing to happen and tasks reassigned. There also has to be some truth telling and fessing up of the parties holding grudges. Anger usually is a cover for hurt feelings, and family members need to be reminded of the love that lives in the system (yes, love really exists, even in YOUR family). And everyone, if they go see a therapist, will need to admit that they want things fixed.
So, when your family is in crisis you might grab your opportunity to find a person who can guide all of you and grease the wheels of the system so that someone has your back in hard times. You might be thinking, "She just doesn't know my family or she wouldn't be so hopeful." Well, maybe there is no hope, but you won't know if you don't try
A family system is like any other system in that it has moving parts (like people) and tasks to do (like pay the bills and support each member). If you think about it that way you can begin to see that if two people in the system don't speak to each other (she's impossible to deal with) or someone falls apart and can't do their share then some repair is needing to happen and tasks reassigned. There also has to be some truth telling and fessing up of the parties holding grudges. Anger usually is a cover for hurt feelings, and family members need to be reminded of the love that lives in the system (yes, love really exists, even in YOUR family). And everyone, if they go see a therapist, will need to admit that they want things fixed.
So, when your family is in crisis you might grab your opportunity to find a person who can guide all of you and grease the wheels of the system so that someone has your back in hard times. You might be thinking, "She just doesn't know my family or she wouldn't be so hopeful." Well, maybe there is no hope, but you won't know if you don't try